Welcome to the ManFast Connection!

If you have found your way to this blog, you may be asking this following question:

Why Are You Talking To Me About A ManFast???

I’m so glad you asked. Let me tell you…

I believe with all my heart and soul that every believer who accepts Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior has every intention of living a life that is pleasing to God. No one gets up in the morning and say, “Today I’m going to disobey God and purposely live in sin.” However, the reality is, in the lives of some believers, the gap between their intentions and their actions can be as wide as the gap our sin creates as it drives us away from God. I know this to be especially true in the lives of single women. I know because I've been a single woman who failed miserably at pleasing God when it came to dealing with sexual sin.

As a woman in my early twenties, I loved God with all my heart and I wanted to live right. I wanted to be a strong Christian woman, full of faith and power. And while I could pray up a storm and worship God with the best of them, I also had a weakness for men. With one group of friends, my church friends, I was an upstanding, righteous Christian. But with my club friends I was always on the lookout for the next potential love interest. The operatives words here are, I was on the lookout.
I very much wanted to be in a loving, committed relationship with a man who loved God and would love me with all his heart.

But at the time, I didn’t have a clue about how to find that man or how to become the wife that man would need. I did what I thought was best and went looking for a man based on the superficial and the outward appearance. The only problem was I didn’t have the proper tools, the proper insight or the right motives to conduct a proper search. I was basically ignorant when it came to finding a husband. And as is the case with ignorant people, I abused the process and allowed myself to used and abused by men. (And yes, I went to church every Sunday and Wednesday night.)

I learned the hard way that trying to find a man by using the world’s tactics leads to one thing – unmarried, unprotected, immoral sex. I had a series of I like to call the three month fiasco. Here’s how it usually went. I met a man the first month and everything was great. It was great having someone to call me, someone to go out with and someone to spend time with…alone in my apartment…in my bed…having sex. The second month, once we got to know each other, the red flags started to pop up. Mind you, this person didn’t have himself together anymore than I did. Since he was ready and willing to dive into fornication with a virtual stranger, he was living as far beneath his God-potential as I was. What was I expecting to get out of this unholy alliance relationship?

As the third month rolled around and the guilt really began to set in, I’d start the process of repentance. I knew all along I was not pleasing God and even prayed for forgiveness right in the middle of doing the dirty deed. But as a loving father, God will only allow you to stay in your mess for so long before He pulls on your heartstrings and asks, “What are you doing, Daughter? Why are you sinking so deep in sin when I’m right here to rescue you?”

Okay… I knew better so I’d repent and try to get it together. I’d tell the guy to get lost, which wasn’t so easy sometimes. I was dependant and needy because I wasn’t fully trusting God and of course the guy wanted to stick around because I’d given him a nice long drink from this cow’s milk. Several in fact. Therefore, without a serious commitment to change or a plan to make that change happen, the late night calls continued to come and I continued to answer the phone...and the door. (Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about.)

Seriously though, I’ve learned over the years that it’s human nature to want to get something for free. People get really excited when they hear the terms, free giveaway, buy one get one free and door prize. We always want something for nothing. And for a man or woman without a heart and a mind to obey God, the offer of free sex is often too hard to turn down – especially when comes without expectations or without any strings attached.

And that’s where I found myself. Wanting to do right thing, but failing miserably when that phone rang late at night. I imagine it has to do with the fact that it comes under the cover of darkness. For some stupid reason I actually believed that no one would know and I wouldn’t get caught in my sin. But how many of you know that God sees everything and what’s done in the dark will come to light? In one way or another God will shine His light of love on your life and show you what you’re not willing to see. But thank God for the light of His glorious gospel.

You may be thinking, who does this woman think she is gettin’ in my business like this? Well, first of all, you came to my blog – better yet, God sent you here. He orchestrated this meeting so that you could hear this message because He’s been trying to get through to you.

If you’ve ever prayed and asked God to help you, change you, bless you and take control of your life…today He is answering that prayer. You may have whispered it in the darkness while a man you didn’t love was trespassing on your soul, nevertheless God heard your prayer and He’s making good on that promise to love and care for His own. So now that you’re here, are you ready to face God and face the reality of what’s going on in your life?


First things first. I want you to take the ManFast Survey and see if you’re really in need of a ManFast. Visit http://www.manfast.net/ to take the ManFast Survey. Follow the instructions and if you want to know that to do next, hit up at Melissa@manfast.net and we’ll talk.

In the meantime, know that God loves you, I love you and I’m praying for you.

Your Sister in Christ,



J.L. Campbell said…
Thanks for sharing your faith and inspiration.

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