Sadly, I hear from many married people who are dealing with tough, tough situations in their relationship! Some of the things I hear really hurt my heart and leave me wondering how they got themselves in a mess like that!
While some are in the situation because they ignored the red flags that would have protected them from the mess they're in now, others are in bad marriages, because that had no clue what they were doing when they said, "I Do!"
It's just like buying a $90,000 luxury car and driving it off the lot, when you've never been behind the wheel of a car before! By getting married, without being properly prepared, people place themselves in something that's very costly, but they have no idea how to operate it and it ends up getting wrecked!
Like it or not... Ignorance of God's plans and intentions for marriage is the reason that so many marriages are wrecked!
And once something is wrecked, it has to be repaired... And not by some jack-legged, shade-tree mechanic, but by someone with an expert touch, who knows the car inside and out! And so it's not wrecked again, there needs to be expert instruction given to learn how to handle something so precious and value!
When it comes to marriage, the only one who knows how to do all that is God! He created the entire concept of marriage and He created man. So if you want to know how to get it right, you must allow the creator to prepare you and teach you how to build a strong relationship, that will meet your needs and stand the test of time!
If you're stuck in a jacked up, messed up, wrecked marriage, then don't blame the institution of marriage... don't blame your spouse... don't blame the devil and don't blame God! Either get out of it or take responsibility to get it right by humbling yourself and asking God to help you fix it! Then whatever He says, however He leads, obey Him!
That's the only way things are going to change for the better!
Loving you enough to tell you the truth!