If You Picked That Person... Own Up to It!!!
I lead a lot of people through the ManFast Plan and as they begin this journey, most of them hope to end up in a loving, satisfying, lasting marriage relationship!
As they all begin working toward that vision, the Father always takes them on a journey within first, to deal with the condition of their heart and the junk that's hiding in their closets, before He brings them into a new relationship!
While we all want to love and to be loved, without specific instruction from the Father, we may not have the wisdom and the skills we need to get it right! So He has to start with us to make sure we don't carry old habits and negative attitudes into a new relationship.
Which makes perfect sense.... If you approach a new relationship, with the same bad behavior, you're likely to end up with another bad outcome!
Yes... The other person may have done you dirty, but did you ignore some red flags going in, that could have kept you from getting hurt?
The other question that begs to be asked is this...
"How did they get that close to you in the first place?"
The answer is simple: You picked them! When you met them, you saw something you liked and you went for it!
You gave them your phone number... You brought them home... You let them in your house, your bed and maybe even your wallet! If you let them into your personal space and they didn't earn the right to be there, you've got to own up to that!
Now, I'm not saying that you asked to be mistreated... But I am saying that you didn't do what was needed to protect your heart. You trusted someone who hadn't earned your trust and you ended up on the short end of the deal. I'm truly sorry for whatever happened to you. Even so, I have to tell you the truth so you won't keep letting it happen over and over again.
It's time to accept your role, learn your lessons from the experience and keep it moving forward!
If you're still complaining about how bad the other person treated you, remember that you're the one who let them into your life! So while there was something wrong with them, there may also be something wrong with your "picker"! If you let the wrong person into your life, then it's up to you not to make that same mistake again! You need to figure out what you want, what you need and how to get it!
If you keep picking the same person, only they have a different face and a different name, but they keep displaying the same bad behavior, then you're the one that's doing something to attract that kind of person to you!
Listen my sisters, if you keep messing with "thugs", you're going to keep getting burned by men who behave badly! They're called "thugs" for a reason!
Hear me well, my brothers, if you keep getting going after shallow women, who are only concerned about their outward appearance, then you'll keep getting taken advantage of by women who love your money, more than they love you!
If you're still stinging from old relationship drama, then you're probably carrying some baggage that needs to be dealt with so you can move forward with a new mindset and have a better outcome in your future relationships.
Whatever your situation, God wants you to do some course correction, so going forward, you can get it right! No one is perfect and we all have room to grow and mature. And that can certainly happen if you let God lead you on a journey to wholeness!
A great place to begin that journey is by praying Psalms 139:23-24:
"Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting."