Is Marriage For Me?
There's a lot being said about marriage these days and some of the information being spread can leave singles with a lot of questions about if they're supposed to be married. With other singles, they've tried love, several times and it's never worked out as planned so they begin to wonder if marriage is even in the cards for them. Then there are those who have not yet made that love connection so the questions about love and finding love are perpetually floating around their head like mocking birds, who are mocking their singleness.
This leaves many asking the question, "Is Marriage For Me?"
One key thing we need to capture is the fact that God has a specific plan for your life. This plan begins with the story He wrote for you when you were still in your mother’s womb. Psalms 139:15-16 makes that clear and the Message Version reads this way:
"You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; All the stages of my life were spread out before you, the days of my life all prepared before I'd even lived one day.”
Psalms 139:5 in The Passion Translation also speaks of God's working in our lives and His good intentions for our future:
"You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way, and in kindness you follow behind me to spare me from the harm of my past. With your hand of love upon my life, you impart a blessing to me."
And then there's Jeremiah 29:11 in the New International Verson:
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
When we see that God does indeed have plans for us, good plans then we must know that those plans involve love, romance and marriage. God created marriage for a purpose and fulfilling godly purpose is the reason He allowed us to even exist. Therefore, if God created you and purposed you to be a wife, then that's something He divinely designed from the womb. It was something the He encoded into your spiritual DNA when He was knitting your bones together as He sculpted nothing into something. If God envisioned you to be the spouse of a specific man, then that's as a part of God’s plan and it’s a part of your make up and design.
Just because you haven’t yet made that love connection, doesn’t mean that the blueprint doesn't exist. Just because you haven't been successful in love and romance, doesn't mean that God's plans are flawed. It’s more likely that you've never discovered and tapped into God’s plans for your life. Or it could be that those plans had been poorly executed and you just haven't seen the desired results.
Think about it... How can you follow a plan if you've never studied the blueprint? How can you implement and complete the plan if you don't have the materials, tools or the detailed instructions to follow?
This means, the plans of God’s divine design for your love life, will not come to pass if you never tap into those plans, by faith, and by obedience. It's allow Him to build up this part of your life, from the foundation up. These plans have scriptural and natural element to this, that we can examine and learn from. But first we have to understand that the desire to be married is part of the plan. It's just like with Adam in the story of God bringing Eve into his life. That idea began with God when He first said it in Genesis 2:18
"It's not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Marriage was a God idea before Adam even knew what a wife was. But when God created his wife and presented her to Adam, he totally got it and was overjoyed to have her. God was absolutely right about what he needed and Adam had no problem with it! His desire was in complete alignment with God's desires for him and that agreement caused the will of God to come to pass in his life.
And the same will happen in your life, as you come into agreement with the desires of God that He imprinted in your heart. That's rights, when we choose to align ourselves with God's plan for our lives, then He will reveal those plans to us and bring them to pass in our lives.
Psalms. 37:4 confirms that He will imprint the desires of His heart upon our heart and as we commit to His will, everything will begin to move us in the direction of the promise, whether we realize that or not.
"Make God the utmost delight and pleasure of your life, and he will provide for you what you desire the most." (TPT)
In the King James Version the word “give” here has various meanings that gives us insight into what God is saying. These includes the words to ascribe, to assign, to set in place, to appoint, to designate, to so order. This means, the desires you have didn’t just originate with you. They came from the heart of God and He imprinted those desires on your heart, because they align with His will, plans and purpose for your life.
Therefore, if you have the desire to be married, then that doesn't mean you're just desperate, lonely and thirsty for a man. It doesn't mean you're afraid of being an Old Maid. It doesn't mean that you not want to be the last one in your crowd to get a man. It means that God built you for marriage and He's imparted that desire into your heart.
Thankfully, God does not give us a desire that He has no intention of bringing to pass. He would not give you the desire to be a wife, if He has no plans for you to become a wife. If He gave you that desire, He will bring it to pass. But first you have to learn to work within His plans to make His plans work out right for you. That's what Psalms 37:5 says:
"Give God the right to direct your life, and as you trust him along the way you’ll find he pulled it off perfectly!" (TPT)
So the question, “Is Marriage For Me?, is answered by the answer to the question, “What is the desire of your heart concerning marriage?”
If you have a true, sincere desire to be marriage, as if you believe you're born to be somebody's wife, then make peace with that desire and extend your faith for God to help you prepare and be positioned for love to come for you. Now that you know He's got a plan for love and romance, then know that He also has a process to make it happen.
So instead of moaning and groaning about being alone, enroll yourself in the school of the Holy Ghost and ask Him to begin your preparation to receive the love God has for you. You can stop wondering and worrying about if love will come and be content to know this journey to love starts with having faith in God's love for you and by trusting in the power of His wisdom and His ability to do all things well.
If that brings joy and peace to your heart, then that's a good thing and you can look forward to becoming your man's good thing! Amen?
Peace & Blessings!